Your Divinity and Your Personality, by Shelly Dressel.

Ultimately, this channel was taking the one from the first of this month (July 2011) about manifesting a million dollars to the next level. During this channel, the Goddess assisted each person in creating a deeper connection within them. From that connection, she was able to help show how to accept more of who you are. This can manifest in different ways. Sometimes it’s about being able to accomplish things. Other times it’s an inner awareness that goes beyond specific words.

Much of this channel consisted of the Goddess assisting people with discerning what is their divinity and what is personality. As she refers to personality, it’s that whole of what makes you human. Some may refer to this as their ego. Her point in bringing up the difference is for people to find within themselves which is which. When you build a life based on desires from your personality, it may feel disconnected, empty and shallow. When you recognize what your divinity is and what evolves from that it will feel rich, fulfilled, content and expanded.

In most people, it’s a combination; the key for you to discern is where is the foundation for the majority of your life, your intention or your awareness. She also assisted you in creating an alignment from your stream of consciousness through your I AM presence so that you could know more of who you are and what you have to draw from in terms of past experiences.

Therefore, when it comes to manifesting anything within your life, the stronger, more centered you are on a foundation of divinity; the greater your potentials and more expanded your manifestation.

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Nama sika; venia benya I AM the one, I AM the whole

I greet you beloved family. I send out my love to each one of you. I flow to you the essence of who I am, so that I may feel the alignment of who you are!

It is such a joy to be able to come and share this time with you. It feels as if there is so much happening, not only in the entire world, but within each one of you.

It feels as if everybody is shifting and moving at a much more accelerated pace than they have been in the past. This is in response to the ascension process, but it is also in response to the choices that you make within your life.

I invite everyone to take this moment and make a choice to feel relaxed, to let go whatever may be around you and allow yourself to think only of this moment. Think only of no breath, your consciousness and your intention to go where ever these energies may take you.

I always appreciate speaking a bit at the very beginning like this, because I can see you letting go the tension and the burdens that you carry around with you.

So now, as you are ready to do so, I invite you to take in one more deep breath breathing down within the center of your being and then as you breathe out; consciously let go your physical body. Allow your consciousness to release in such a way that it shifts into the space of the magnetic grid.

As it arrives here within this space let yourself feel what it is. This is the space where you connect with your higher self. This is the space where you allow an even greater amount of your divinity to link with you. Feel it and take it in for what it is to you. Some may have a perception of interlocking pathways; some may feel a space of pure consciousness.

As you are ready to do so, I invite you to let go the magnetic pull of the earth. I invite you to let your energies expand in such a way that you can feel the essence of the crystalline grid. As you allow yourself to merge within this space open to the feel the various shifts in consciousness and energy as they flow through here. Some may have a perception of the gradients and energy, others may just have a sense of it all, as one energy.

I invite you to shift once more; this time, allow yourself to shift into the space of the soul plane. Reach out for your divinity. As you have a sense of opening up the flow of your consciousness put forth the intention to link with your I AM presence.

As you feel this essence, as you feel this energy move within and around you, allow yourself to open to the perception of the many, many, many facets that make up who you are. As you allow your consciousness to shift in such a way you take in even more of the variances that have created who you are.

I the Goddess move in and amongst all of you. I reach out and embrace each one of you. As I do so, you will find yourself shifting into the space of the All That Is. As you arrive here within the All That Is, I invite you to let yourself fly as if you are flying free.

As you know this is a place of creation. This is a place where you can truly be who you are. You can practice various potentials. You can get to know the various aspects of not only this life but that make up your divinity.

As we are gathering within this space I’m listening to the various communications that you send to me.

There is much that I would like to speak with you about this evening. The last time that we work together, we worked on the steps that it would take to manifest $1 million. There was so much fun and excitement around that experience!

I gave you some steps that you can follow. I worked with your energy to assist in releasing whatever may be standing in the way and then by the end of the whole evening, I saw everybody in the space of collecting their million dollars up to 10 and 20 million. There were a number of people, who had decided to just think even bigger. This is by no means the only way to do this, it is but one.

So I wanted to come back and revisit this again with this journey this evening. I invite you to take in a deep breath, and as you do so reach out as if you are being handed --perhaps a check, perhaps a money order, perhaps the cash for $1 million, and as you take this into your hand let yourself feel, whatever it is, that goes through you.

Allow yourself to tap into even more deeply what this experience is for you. The vast majority of you are now very comfortable with this amount of money. So I would like to take this in a couple of different directions this evening.

One of the things that I would like to speak with you about is what might be divine thoughts or divine actions versus those that are based in your ego. Now, through Shelly we sometimes we refer to your ego as your personality. If I speak either one of those they are intended to be interchangeable, because when we speak of one’s personality everyone knows they get a feel for what that is about that individual. When we speak of one’s ego, it is sometimes associated in a negative connotation or as a limited connotation.

And so for the purpose of what we are doing we will call your personality or your ego that part of you that is your human existence.

As you take in a deep breath and you let your focus go within your heart center allow yourself to be here in the space of the All That Is and really truly know and feel your divinity.

Now for this next step, some of you may have a specific sense or idea and others may have just a very vague sense. But I would like you to have a sense of turning around and looking back at your divinity. As you do this I invite you to follow your energies as if through a stream of consciousness so that you may link with your I AM presence.

As you do so, ask to know what some of your lifetimes may have been. Again it may be a general sense of knowledge, it may be specific. If you are coming up blank then take in a deep breath with me, [Deep breath] and as I breathe through I’d clear out the energies and invite you to once more look towards this space and be open to truly feel the alignment with your divinity.

Many of you feel this as a wash of love. You feel it as a wash of strength. You may see or sense it in other manners. It is important for you to be open and acknowledge who you are at your core being.

As you consider things in your daily life, consider yourself as you are walking through your life. You are very conscious of the aspects of the elements that come in as your divinity. As you consider some of the accomplishments in your life, there may be a part of you that has a sense of feeling; “I did it, I accomplished my goal and I did it”.

I invite you to go to that place in your life when you’ve had that feeling. As you do so in this moment in time, as you are in that space of alignment, open up and for some it may feel as if you are peeling away a couple of layers but peel away until you get down to your core being and when you align with this accomplishment; let yourself have a sense of your foundation was it to your divinity or was it based in your personality. For many it’s a blend of the two and often times it’s difficult to discern one from the other.

So, I invite you to consider again; perhaps it’s an accomplishment, but consider a time in your life in which you succeeded. Perhaps you won at a game, perhaps you won an award. Who knows what it may be. But consider a time in which you were acknowledged for your accomplishment and it felt good but perhaps there was something lacking.

The question here is; did it feel like whatever you are seeking had its foundation in your personality or your ego aspect as opposed to your divinity? There is a difference. I know how much all of you have been very dedicated upon your personal journey. You have chosen what you seek to have. You have chosen to create a greater alignment with your divinity. You have chosen to move to the ascension process in whatever form that may mean to you.

Let us consider accomplishments that you may seek to have in your everyday life. Think of yourself in the life that you are living and think of some of the things. Let’s start with that you may already have. Are there perhaps many either materialistic or things outside of yourself that you surround yourself with?

Let me be very clear upfront that there is absolutely nothing wrong with having lots of material things around you. It’s a glorious way for you to experience life; and I believe that everybody should have as much of whatever it is that they seek to have. Now having said that let’s come back around to the things that you have within your life.

As you consider some of them, does it give you a sense of accomplishment or does it align with you within your heart center and within your divinity as it manifests in your physical being? Now you may say; “it all feels the same” and that’s fine.

Continue to go through your life, perhaps think of some of the accomplishments that you’ve had. Have their perhaps been things that you have accomplished or experienced and you did so because it would give you perhaps a certain status or perhaps it would give you the job you are seeking, the home you wish to have? My purpose here is for you to consider the things that you have manifested or that you have wanted and when you tap into these energies you can feel the difference.

This is an alignment with me when I am in my connection to divinity and then other things that you have done or accomplished, and it feels somewhat disconnected from you. It feels like something you did and you enjoyed it and it was just what you wanted, but it left you feeling empty or perhaps alone and lonely. Whenever you have accomplished something that you were seeking to have and it leads you with a sense of emptiness, loneliness or disconnect, then you have shifted away from your divinity and into your personality.

As you consider whatever it is that you seek to have, is it something that makes you joyous and happy from within your inner being or is it something that you feel is going to make you happy once you get there? It is sometimes very difficult to ascertain the differences.

I would therefore invite you to begin to practice asking yourself that question. Do I want this because it’s in alignment with my divinity and my soul choice? You may at first get the, I don’t know, I don’t know, I don’t know answer. You may always get that answer. But my sense is that the more you ask that question of yourself with the pure intention of awareness you will begin to discern very easily: is this based in my divinity, or is based in my ego and personality?

You may find as you begin to create an even deeper alignment with your divinity through this exercise that you manifest even greater material things within your life.

Let’s come back around to that million dollars that we’ve been talking about for this month, of money, meaning July 2011. As you are here within your divinity and as you link with your human self upon the earth, I invite you to again step into that space of the money that I handed you just a bit go.

With this greater clarity, what is your sense of having this money within your money, within your money field, ha-ha within your energy field?

I am noticing that a number of you recognize that you have barriers in place because manifesting a large amount of money is not divine or manifesting this amount of money is materialistic and that’s a negative thing.

So even though you may want it in a part of you there is another part of you equally strongly putting on the brakes and throwing up barriers. So breathe down deeply within yourself and as you do so have a sense of clearing out any resistance, clear out belief that no longer work for you, clear out any obstructions that you may have.

If you seek to have a greater understanding of the alignment between this value or this amount of money then reach in to your I AM presence. I can guarantee that every single one of you at one point or another throughout this stream of your consciousness has had riches beyond what you could imagine.

So, you have already done this. You already have it set up and available to you as a support mechanism. Breathe deeply inviting the flow of that support and inviting the flow of that energy to come up within you creating a greater foundation within you.

I am going to shift gears and ask you another question. Has there ever been an occasion within your life in which you thought you were capable of amazing things? Perhaps it was a creativity within you, perhaps it’s your intelligence, perhaps it’s your ability to organize, who knows what it may be.

But is there anything within your life that you’ve considered and then perhaps it was when you were growing up and your parents said this or perhaps you yourself have said this, ”Oh, that’s okay, lots of people can do that.” In other words, you downplay your ability.

Perhaps another phrase that you may have used with yourself or someone have may have used with you is “you’re egotistical if you think that”. And again that time I use the word ego because you all know what it means.

Here within the space of the All That Is, I invite you to look within your heart and think about these things within your life, these times when you truly are magnificent, these times when you are immense in your energies. Think about it and I invite you to be completely honest with yourself and accept that; yes, that is you and yes, you have that ability.

As you move through your days and you ask yourself that question, ‘is this divinity or is this ego or personality’? In particular, when it comes to these things or maybe one thing, whatever it may be that is unique to you and that you know makes you special then I invite you to open an feel the flow, feel it as it washes through you, feel what it is to acknowledge this within.

I see in so many of you right now that it’s almost a relief to acknowledge it because it is as if there is something inside of you that has been wanting to make itself known, that has been wanting to get your attention, but because you are either being humble or you didn’t want to make more of yourself, you ignored it and you pushed it down.

This is your opportunity to let that come up, let it come out [Deep breath] and let it pour forth from you. Again, what a relief this is! As I look at you I see so many of you coming into your own. I see you acknowledging who you are and accepting your ability. This is not always something easy for you to do. Some of you may think it comes with responsibilities or it comes with attachments. What I believe can assist you in all aspects of your life is for you to open, recognize what this is and accept it as yourself.

As you accept this within, you are acknowledging something that you put forth as your divinity before you came into and you’ve lived this life. You need not tell another single person about this. It is yours, it is private, it is you, about you, for you, because it is you.

If you connect with something within you and it feels hollow, it doesn’t feel like it’s your own, I invite you to ask that question. Is this divinity or is it personality?

You may find that some of those things that you have taken on are based in personality as opposed to divinity and therefore you can let it go. If you have self-imposed responsibilities or actions and you can recognize that it’s really not here as a means of supporting your divinity, you can let it go.

As you consider actions that you may be taking or aspects of your life that you are perhaps living because someone else expects it of you, you can let it go. Now, if there’s something that someone else expects and you choose to have that and you recognize that it comes from your divinity, that’s a completely different story. But, if they are actions that you are taking perhaps the life you are living and it is based on someone else’s choice and desire, I invite you to let that go.

As you take ownership of who you are you grow in your divinity and you grow in your awareness. As you accept this person that you have always secretly thought you are and these abilities within yourself that you thought, “yes, that is something I can do” and you take it on, you blend it within you, you recognize that “this is being true to myself”, then feel how much you grow.

Sometimes it may be difficult to let go of someone else’s expectations of you, but you will find that the more that you are connected within your divinity, the more that you are living your life from that space of honoring who you are; then these other things will fall away from you and you will find that it will be without trauma and without difficulty.

I am especially excited about what is taking place tonight! I believe in all of you and I believe that as you step into your divinity so very completely, that the joy will emanate from you. You will be at peace. You will be content with all that is happening within your life. And as for the million dollars, it will easily expand into as much or as little as you would like.

As you are living your lives over the next several weeks, I invite you to do whatever it is you need to do so that you may be true to who you are. If you don’t know who you are then, begin by asking; “does this create joy within my heart as I take these steps or this action?” Another question you may ask yourself, “What is it that makes me feel happy when I contemplate doing it?”

The direction to help you find out what is soul driven is by following those things that assist you to feel happy, excited, content or expanded.

Right now, I invite you to look around. Look around, not only here in the space of the All That Is, but look around at your life on earth from the perspective of the All That Is. Are there things that you would like to shift? Do so now with the intention that it will be easier for you to do it in your daily life.

As you consider all that is happening ask yourself the question; “is this my divinity, or is this my personality?” I see many of you flying around, expanding, playing with energies, moving in many, many different directions.

I invite you all to come back as a group. If you seek to return here to play by all means do so but for now, as you come back as a group, look around at each other and as you do so, see them from the eyes of your divinity.

~~ Ansaluia ~~ As you consider that word, you are expanding your own divinity; you are acknowledging your divinity and you are looking at the others around you and seeing them as their divinity. It’s a beautiful thing. It’s what leads life or it’s what allows life to continue to grow.

So, coming up with in the midst of all of you is the hologram of both the earth and the new earth. As you consider who you are from your divinity, and who you are in your everyday life, I invite you to send that flow into the hologram. As this flow continues to move down, let yourself feel or sense the empowered movement of energy as it comes through you. The hologram itself begins to radiate light. Some of this light is filled with color; other is just a pure white light.

These holograms once they are filled up begin to shift. They move through space, that which is aligned with the new earth shifts to the crystalline grid out towards the new earth and the hologram of your earth moves down to the energy of your physical world. It moves into the center of the earth itself.

It links with the crystals that make up the center. It links with the other dimensions in energies and begins to emanate out from the center of the earth and as this is emanating outward it comes up through the earth.

It comes up in such a way that it assists in shifting the collective consciousness; it also comes up from the earth into your physical body. I invite you as you feel this energy, recognize that this is you! It is you as your divinity. It is you being filled up with the knowledge of who you are and the potential for who you are and where you can go.

Let it wash over you and then you send it out from you into your community, into the ethers, into the magnetic grid and that is another means of creating an energy field that will support you.

As you allow your consciousness to return once more to the All That Is, I invite you to consider how you are already feeling yourself become grounded. Know that you can come back here at any time and practice recognizing what is your divinity and what is personality.

Take with you all that you are and allow yourself to shift so that you may go back into the soul plane. As you come within this space, look at your divinity. There may be even more that you discern about who you are. Allow yourself to shift. Perhaps there is a greater amount of your divinity that will stay here within this space but as much as is in alignment with you, will come with you.

You move through the energies of the crystalline grid, you feel yourself in that crystalline vibration as if amplifying and creating an alignment that will help you in manifesting within your life.

You move through there into the magnetic grid. As you move through the magnetic grid you feel the magnetic pull of the earth. You feel yourself coming back down within your physical body.

Allow yourself to expand as much as you need to, so that you can flow your consciousness, so that you may flow your awareness within and around who you are right now at this moment. As you allow yourself to adjust, take a moment and ask yourself; “here I am back on earth, back in my physical reality, what about me is unique or perhaps special or perhaps the greatest reflection of my divinity?” Allow yourself to accept that this is you.

Allow yourself to accept the immensity of who you can be and as you create an alignment that becomes stronger and stronger within you, you find that so much manifests around you. Perhaps it manifests in a physical way, perhaps in relationships, perhaps it’s in finding satisfaction, peace or contentment. Be open and allow for everything to flow within and around you.

And we thank everybody. For those of you still in the queue, we apologize that we were unable to help you this evening or get to your question but know that if you go inside and as you continue to expand in this way that we’ve been speaking of that many of you will get the answers yourself and you do probably have some insights already, but trust in yourself, trust in your transformation, trust in this ever growing awareness.

Know that you are not alone, that you are always connected, not only to your own divinity but you are connected to the Angels, the guides, myself and the All That Is.

I am ever with you.

Ansaluia.

Shelly Dressel channeling the Goddess of Creation. All rights are reserved. You are welcome to share this channel, but we ask you not take any portion of it out of the body of the channel and to retain this copyright message. For further information please check out our website: www.goddesslight.net

It's Not Love that makes the World go Round - It's Guilt!, by Eileen Borris.

The most important issue to deal with in the forgiveness process is our feelings of guilt. We can have a hard enough time getting in touch with our anger. Getting in touch with our guilt is even more difficult. None of us like to feel that awful feeling in the pit of our stomach. And for those of us feeling guilty for what we have done, that guilt blocks any possibility for us to feel love which we feel so unworthy of. When we don’t accept love we can’t be healed.

There is another reason why it is so important to uncover our guilt. If we pretend that the guilt buried within ourselves doesn’t exist, the only thing we can do with these feelings is literally place that guilt on someone else. Since guilt includes all the negative feelings we believe to be true about ourselves, now we only see those negatives in the people around us. We become very judgmental because of the lack of love within ourselves, and we attack others through the filter of our guilt. As soon as something happens to us, we can only see the situation through our negative thinking caused by our guilt. Until we recognize what we are doing, we will continue to blame others and have a distorted view of what actually happened. We need to learn how to see through our smoke screens and own our guilt

So how do we work with our guilt? 

1. Don’t be afraid to talk about your feelings of guilt and recognize that as awful as a situation may be, we did the best we could.

2. Take responsibility for your choices and if you are the one who needs forgiveness realize that now that you can see what you have done – you can choose again.

3. Keep in mind that holding on to guilt and being stuck in a victim role is a choice, too. 

4. Accept responsibility for your emotional reactions.

5. Listen within.

To help yourself heal your guilt and move forward in your personal forgiveness process take out your journal and ask yourself “What do I feel guilty of in relation to this situation?” Explore what comes up without judgment. Don’t be afraid to reach back in time for feelings of guilt. This is part of your healing process. Feel your feelings as they surface and be open to what they want to say to you. Is there something now or in the past that needs healing and if so, what actions can I take to heal it? Even if it is clear that you did nothing to the perpetrator, you still may have feelings of guilt. If there is something that you feel ashamed of, explore those feelings to get to the roots of your wound. This action will uncover something you need to forgive yourself for. Journal with whatever comes up. You will probably have to repeat this journal exercise a number of times before you are able to release some of your guilt. Guilt runs deep. It is important that you be gentle with yourself as you do this work. After you have explored your guilt feelings ask yourself, “How have I place my feelings of guilt on others, such as through blaming or judging? What can I do differently now?” Go deep within and listen.

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Which Child Were You? Roles By Birth, by Lynne Forrest.

The way our parents responded to us as children was based on factors beyond our control. Sometimes our relationship with family is based pure and simply upon where we are in the birth order. Sure, there are other factors; for instance the way parents relate to each other, including how they meet their own needs -- not to mention each child’s unique personality. These factors certainly play a part in how family members interact with each other, however, it is widely recognized among family system professionals that a first born child will be received very differently than a second and so on.  And there are specific characteristics that apply to each birth assignment, irregardless of the unique qualities or personality of that particular child.  In other words, not who we are but the order in which we are born will determine our place in the family and very likely impact us for the rest of our lives.

     When our emotional and physical needs are met as children we grow up believing that we have a right to be here and that we are capable, lovable and able to take care of ourselves.  But getting those personal needs met depends on how well the needs of the family have been met. Inevitably the needs of the “system” (family unit) will take priority over the individuals within it. The system needs are essential for a family’s functioning and survival and they will be met even if it means ruthlessly sacrificing the well-being of the children. The family unit is most important because it provides a sort of check and balance that stabalizes and holds things together. For instance, if the head of the family is alcoholic, the system’s need for worth and respectability may be compromised. It has to look elsewhere to supply these vital missing ingredients. The firstborn child is the obvious choice. Without any kind of conscious “volunteering” this child may automatically feel the pressure to be the ultra responsible and respectable one in dad’s stead in order to to fill the void or make up for dad’s lack.  Simply by virtue of being the first child, he or she becomes the family hero, whose job it is to do whatever it takes to insure that the family is seen as whole and functional.  The child’s needs are not considered.  They have taken a back seat to the demands of the family unit. 

What are the System’s Needs?

     The home environment is supposed to be a safe harbor -- a place to escape from external stress-- a place where family members can relax and be themselves. It should be an enjoyable environment where fun, humor and entertainment can be had.  Worth, health, relief and stress-resolve are some of the more important needs that a system has. If the parents do not see themselves as having value and esteem, both individually and as a couple, than the system starts out at a disadvantage, causing the system to have to look elsewhere for its needs.  Each family has its own idea about exactly what will satisfy those needs.  One family looks to hard work as the way to gain a sense of worth for instance, while another thinks esteem comes through intelligence or being well-educated. But when adults from dysfunction with wounded histories come together and start a new family, they often have no idea about how to meet their unconscious need to “look the part” of functionality and health.  Instead they unconsciously look to their children to provide these vital needs. This means that rather than focusing on what’s best for their child, they, in one way or another, expect their children to supply their own unmet needs and then resort to blame when it doesn’t work.

     Children are very impressionable. They pick up on often subtle clues from their caretakers and the environment around them and in this way they figure out what is expected of them.  Because they start out without a sense of identity they look to their primary caregivers for personal definition.  They gain much of this information from their interaction with family.  Children are continously busy interpreting the messages they receive and from these sources they formulate beliefs that shape their idea of self.  In other words these interpretations become their self-definition. When a system is burdened with trying to meet its own unmet needs the child gets lost in the shuffle-- their needs go unmet and this sends negative messages . One obvious deletorious message for instance is “My needs (therefore I) are not important”.  Instead of feeling loved and accepted for who they are, children turn instead to their assigned role (based on what the system needs at the time of their birth) to gain a sense of identity, belonging and validity. By the time children are three, four or five years old, their identity, based on their assigned family role is firmly in place.  Of course, none of this is conscious. Children have no idea that they are not the role they are playing --nor does the family.  They have become absolutely entangled and identified with an often maladaptive, even destructive way of relating to the world around them.   

What are the classic “Assigned Roles”?:

It was Virginia Satir that originally recognized that particular roles with distinct characteristics occur in families. She found that these roles often occur by birth order and named and described them accordingly. It's important to remember that roles are unconsciously assigned as children are born into the family, not chosen by the individual child. These roles have nothing to do with what the child wants, nor is it based on a child's best interests or native characteristics.  Assignment is an unconscious determination made simply on a combination of birth order and the particular needs of the family at the time of birth. The “severity” to which a role is carried out is depends on the degree of family dysfunction. The more dysfunctional the more pronounced and therefore limiting the roles will be. In more functional families, family roles are less defined.  In really healthy families you will find an absence of roles -- this is rare.  From a hierarchy of system needs, every role is assigned based on the most pressing need of the family at the time of each child’s birth. Let’s start with the firstborn whose assignment most often is to meet the system’s need for worth. These roles are not carved in granite, however.  Depending on surrounding circumstances, the order of roles may vary. Sometimes a first child will be the scapegoat for instance.  For instance, if there is already a primary hero in the family who might feel threatened by competition, another hero might be forbidden. Or if the first child is female in a family where males are more important ... or vice versa, then perhaps the second child will be a hero and the firstborn will take on secondborn characteristics.  Also, when there is more than 4-5 years between children, the roles may start over.  In other words if there is two children born within a couple of years and then another child comes along ten years later, the third child may take on characteristics of a first born rather than a typical thirdborn.  Twins are interesting.  I’ve never met a set of twins that did not know who was the oldest, even if it’s only a matter of minutes. Often the roles will go accordingly, but I’ve also seen it occur, especially in large families that the twins may both play the same role.  

The Hero

Firstborn children, as previously noted, are very often assigned to a "Hero" Position. Characteristics of this role include being the responsible one whose job it is to bring worth to the family.  They may attain this by being an achiever; the family's "shining star".  Whatever the family most values will be where this child excells. Often acting as a "little parent", or parental confidante, these children are scripted to get their own personal needs met by becoming whatever it is their family esteems as worthy. People who have lived their lives in this role often have had to sacrifice their childhood. Eternally grown up, (even at age five) and in charge of taking care of everyone and everything around them, they are often seen as accomplished, capable problem solvers and achievers. The price paid however, is often the loss of knowing how to relax or enjoy life. Their spontaneity and passion for life had to be hidden away because of the overwhelming responsibility they took on. As a result they tend to be highly successful but serious and intense about life.  A typical message reported by one “hero” firstborn was; “Dad told me I had to be mom’s little man and that I was to take care of my younger brothers. That meant I got punnished if they did something wrong”. It’s pretty easy to guess that this child grew up with a strong need to be always in control of everything and everyone around him. 

The Scapegoat

Second born children often are designated as the "scapegoat" .Their role is to bring the family a sense of health and well-being by becoming the one who is unhealthy or simply "the bad apple".  By becoming the primary problem, scapegoats take the pressure off the family to look for further dysfunction. Irregardless of what other problems might be going on family members can simply point at the scapegoat and say, "If it weren't for her/him ...this would be a perfectly healthy family!" Being the one targeted as being sick, defective or unruly, this "bad seed" acts out the unresolved issues of the family. The degree of acting out will depend upon how much dysfunction there is in the family. The more disturbed the family, the worse this kid acts out. The assigned scapegoat sacrifices their own well-being in order to take on the underlying sickness of the family. By doing so, they, rather than the alcoholic or abusive parent, are targeted as being the problem. Their poor behavior is in actuality often simply a loud proclamation that the family needs help.... Often it is the scapegoat who gets the family in therapy and thus brings about a chance for healing. By acting out the family’s dysfunction, the scapegoat becomes a key, of sorts, for family intervention. Unfortunately more often, the child (and those around him/her) see only themselves as the problem. As one scapegoat reported, “I remember being five years old and wondering why I was so bad -- what was wrong with me?” Scapegoats often feel misunderstood and like they don’t fit in.  “I spent my childhood looking for evidence that I was adopted because I was SO different than the others ... I simply did not belong,” cited one typical second born client. These folks buy into the idea of their badness and often spend their whole life living out a self destructive script, including drug and alcohol abuse, poor anger management and extremely negative relating patterns.      

The Lost Child

Third born children are most often designated as the "Lost Child". This child comes along at a time when the energy of the family is spent. By the time the family has applauded all of the Hero’s achievements and exhausted thier efforts trying to straighten out the scapegoat there is nothing left for the thirdborn child.  The message this child gets then is that they are supposed to need nothing -- “Just be good, will ya? Be nice and quiet and take care of yourself”.  So this child often complies by emotionally withdrawing. As a matter of fact, most of us can recognize a lost child because they are the one whose name you can’t ever quite recall ... or you’ll find yourself looking right over them as if they were not there. They are so good at retracting their energy, that they literally seem to disappear. These children are often loners who turn to fantasy through books or computers.  Because they have learned not to expect anyone to be there for them, they often repress their needs. This leads to a common complaint of feeling empty inside ... “it feels like if you were to thump me I’d ring like an empty barrel”, said one client, a classic lost child. They may attempt instead to fill this void with food, leading to eating disorders and/or unconsciously take on illnesses, such as asthma or allergies in order to get the time and attention they need for survival in a barren environment. 

The Mascot

Fourth born children are typically designated as the "mascot". The primary assigned duty here is one of distraction. Mascots often become the family entertainer or clown, using humor or clumsy antics as a way to break tension when things get out of hand at home. Often, when they are the "baby" of the family, they are treated as if they are too little or too dumb to understand what’s going on in the family.  “I felt as if everybody else knew what was going on, except me.  I was always trying to catch up and catch on to life”, said one typical mascot. There is often a life time pattern of confusion about how to handle life for the mascot, as a result.  The family, buying into a notion that this child is fragile and needs protection often hides reality from them.  It’s been well documented that family secrets get passed down and acted out.  It is not uncommon for the mascot to live a totally chaotic life, even ending up in a mental institution depending on the amout of dysfunction with which he or she is unconsciously carrying and acting out for the family.  Dysfunction tends to “roll downhill”, so to speak, which means that the more unstable the family the crazier this child feels.  

If there are five or more children in a family, the roles may start over, depending on factors such as the age difference between siblings. An only child may play each of the various roles at different times depending on the systems primary need of the moment, or children may combine roles. It’s common, for instance, for a scapegoat to take on the role of mascot when there are only three children in a family. Again it depends on the family needs. Role order and description are not carved in granite, however it is surprising how often individuals identify with them. What I have given here is a very brief description, but I hope it will help you begin to explore your own family role. We don’t have to be stuck in these roles forever. By bringing them into consciousness we can begin the process of challenging them and changing the way we relate ... to ourselves and those around us.

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The Guilt Bind, by Lynne Forrest.

There seems to be a widespread notion among humans that somehow by shaming, demanding or guilting ourselves (and others) we can effect change.   In fact the opposite is true. The real truth is that guilt is the glue that holds our painful habits and active addictions in place. There has never been a practicing alcoholic, for instance that was not eaten up with shame and guilt (no matter how hard they may act otherwise) about their using pattern. What they don’t realize is that until they can let go of the guilt around their condition they cannot change it.  Guilt keeps us from accepting the “what is” of our situation – as a matter of fact it is a form of resisting reality.  And our subconscious reacts in an interesting way to resistance.

When we come into a bullying, shaming sort of relationship with the subconscious, it reacts in a backlash sort of way.  According to *Eckhert Tolle, the “law of opposite reaction” gets sets in motion.  In other words the subconscious fights back.  Have you ever noticed that the more someone disapproves of your behavior the more you feel compelled to engage in it? It may be that you sincerely WANT to do better - you may actually even “try” – and fail.  Then you tell yourself that you just CAN’T change and feel terribly flawed and guilty about your weakness.  Maybe the criticism sets up a rebellion in you to which you respond with anger telling yourself that you don’t WANT to change – that, as a matter of fact, you’re going to do it now for spite, if for no other reason. Even then, on some level, there is guilt.  Any way you go when this dynamic is in place it compounds guilt and binds us to the behavior even more than before. 

This blaming style of self-interaction is one we practice within ourselves all the time. Begin to listen for your “guilt language”.  For instance, how often do you use the words “should” and “shouldn’t”?  How about judgment labels like “good” and “bad” or “right” and “wrong”?  These are all guilt producers designed to resist the reality of what is.

Not so long ago, I began to notice the way I talked to myself about food.  I was amazed to discover that I felt guilt over literally every bite I put in my mouth.  It was either “not the right time to eat” or it was the “wrong choice” of food.  I complained to myself that what I was eating was “too fattening” or “not enough protein” or that it had too many carbohydrates or too much sugar, white flour or salt – the negative self-talk went on and on about my eating practices.  Is it any surprise that I continually battled over my weight? So I decided to take radical action.  As an experiment for the next few weeks I gave myself complete permission to eat whatever I wanted with one condition - to put down the guilt about it.  In other words when I felt the urge to comment negatively about my choices I simply reminded myself of the permission I’d given myself to eat what I wanted. The results of my experiment were astounding.  As soon as I gave up creating a negative internal environment for myself through constant criticism I felt better.  This allowed me to stay present while I ate. Being present made it possible for me to make conscious choices that led to healthier decisions about my food intake.  I found myself eating less; but more than that – I actually started savoring what I ate.  And yes I ate chocolate! But, instead of half a box at a time I found I was content to eat one small piece after a meal.  Because there was no guilt I could relax and enjoy every precious morsel and be satisfied with that.  Because I was feeling inner harmony rather than guilt I found myself wanting to feed myself better, i.e. make healthy choices. I was no longer running to hide (i.e. go unconscious) every time I ate.  Instead I found myself consulting my body around mealtime – asking what would truly satisfy it.  I found that in the absence of negative self talk my food choices began to change. I truly WANTED to eat healthy foods with enjoyment! My weight began to stabilize but even better, the sense of inner peace that comes with self-acceptance settled in.

This important time of discovery helped me realize the potency of guilt. I realized that when we treat ourselves poorly we abandon ship - we literally check out. That means we are no longer living in the present moment – we go unconscious.  We have what might be called a “zombie moment”. In that state we act mindlessly and then, of course our choices will not be necessarily what’s best for us. Easing up on guilt and self-negativity allows us to align with what is truly in our best interest if for no other reason than because we feel better about ourselves.

Alcoholics Anonymous is a good example of how self-acceptance works. What is the first thing an alcoholic encounters when he finally finds his or her way into an AA meeting?  What happens there probably feels unbelievable to the newcomer.  For what she sees is a room full of other self professed addicts who are announcing OPENLY that they are alcoholic and that their lives are unmanageable! What she finds is complete acceptance within those walls - of each other and themselves, as suffering alcoholics.  What the fledgling addict finds is an acceptance of what is - without recrimination, moralizing or guilt about her “problem”. It may be the first time in her life that this alcoholic has encountered acceptance around something that has heretofore caused deep shame. Amazingly enough, these fellow addicts are smiling and often joyful about a plight that the newcomer has been trying to hide! Such acceptance allows space – space for the addict to step back and see the reality of his or her situation without denial.  (Denial is a form of unconsciousness that always follows on the coat tails of shame and guilt.) From that space he or she is able to make appropriate choices because they are in a position to better see their reality (including factual consequences of past choices) without blame or shame.  But the space resulting from self-acceptance also allows something even more important to take place.  It creates room for the flow of Source to take place in the addict’s life. In AA it’s verbalized in the third step, “Made a decision to turn our will and our life over to the care of God, as we understood Him”.  When we accept ourselves just as we are – warts and all, we create the space for alignment with a Universal Partner that can do for us what we cannot do for ourselves.

Going unconscious keeps us from being plugged into the Awesome Source of Power that is available only in this moment. Much the same way that a lamp can only shine when it’s plugged into the electrical current, we can only be “alight” with consciousness when we are plugged in to that Source that provides us with vital life giving and healing substance.  Connection automatically happens when we come back to this moment.  I remind myself constantly of Eckhert’s simple and yet profoundly true statement, “Life can only happen in this moment.” In other words, only the present is real.  Neither past not future exist, they are but figments of our imagination. By definition then, the aliveness of Source can only be found and aligned with in the NOW. If I’m lost in a self-remorseful past I’m missing this opportunity to align with the One Thing that can heal. When I am plugged into that Source I am available for prompting. When I am connected, that God Force (or whatever you choose to call it) inspires me to choose wisely that which will truly serve me best.

The example given about AA is relevant for every one of us whether we struggle with some form of chemical abuse or not.  We are all attached or addicted to some kind of false and painful belief about ourselves that limits our life expression – it’s not a matter of whether we are but more of what forms our addiction takes. Most of us have bought into a story on some level that convinces us that we are defective, inept, unable to do anything right – basically unacceptable and unlovable.  Beneath the surface of consciousness we are constantly talking to ourselves about these inadequacies, ever reminding ourselves of this “truth” and looking for evidence of it.  Guilt is the binding force that reinforces these painful and limiting ideas about us. Through this negative inner dialogue we actually perpetuate feelings of self-doubt and low self-esteem which drives us further into unconsciousness and out of the here and now.  Not only do we then feel worse but also by doing so we are disconnecting ourselves from the One Source that can alleviate and heal the situation. Only through releasing guilt are we able to come back into our bodies, abide in present reality and authentically unfold into the unique selves we were meant to be.

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Summit 2012 ~ Beyond Chaos! (by Toni Petrinovich)

St. George UT – September 16 – 18, 2011
What you can expect

As in all transitions, there is chaos because additional information is attempting to enter the system.  First there is destruction so that there can be construction.  This is a rebirth.  The Mayans call it the World of the Fifth Sun.
It will be the start of a new era resulting from and signified by the solar meridian crossing the galactic equator and the Earth aligning itself with the center of the galaxy.
At sunrise on December 21, 2012 for the first time in 26,000 years the Sun rises to conjunct the intersection of the Milky Way and the plane of the ecliptic. This cosmic cross is considered to be an embodiment of the Sacred Tree, The Tree of Life, a tree remembered in all the world's spiritual traditions.

The Maya called an era a “sun” but the exact time span is not clear. In the Popul Vuh, the book of Mayan creation mythology, there were 3 unsuccessful attempts at creating humans, and the gods were successful on the 4th attempt. Therefore, current humans are the “fourth creation” and we are now living in the “fourth sun.” As this era draws to a close, we enter the “fifth sun” and a new age or creation begins. But, does a sun refer to a cycle of 13 baktuns (5200 tun or 5125.26 solar years)? Or does a sun refer to a much larger cycle of 5 of these 13-baktun cycles (26,000 tun or 25,626.28 solar years)? Another key question is when did the sun cycle begin and end?

The Fifth Sun will call attention to ether – this represents spiritual energy.  This is not about religion or spirituality, per se.  It is about the connecting force that is the matrix within all of us.  While meditation and prayer are good, it is more important to know your Self clearly.  That is the only way you can contribute.

Prophecy

Many prophecies are converging right now.  The material world is changing.  Look at the revolutions around the world.  Apocalypse is the "lifting of the veil".

Some observers say this alignment with the heart of the galaxy in 2012 will open a channel for cosmic energy to flow through the Earth, cleansing it and all that dwells upon it raising all to a higher level of vibration.   Change is accelerating now and it will continue to accelerate.

Right now each person and group is going his or her own way. The Mayan elders of the mountains said there is hope if the people of the light can come together and unite in some way.  Everyone thinks they are the most important, that their own understandings, or their group's understandings, are the key. There's a diversity of cultures and opinions, so there is competition, diffusion, and no single focus.

Changing Humanity

The best part about how humanity is changing is that nobody knows how the change will manifest.  Many people believe they know based upon their religious beliefs, etc. yet no one really knows what we are capable of since we have not been here before.

Everything and everyone is shifting.  No matter what the subject -from what you eat (think about the radiation covering the earth; should we eat less?) to how you meditate.  Some practices will begin to become difficult and will be abandoned with perhaps no thing taking their place.  Something actually has taken place of the old practices yet each individual is going to have to sit down and feel what is true in that regard for him/her.  Following the definitions of others will become extinct.

Think about the difference in communication – we have come from riders taking news from village to village, to writing letters and then the printing press, to telegraph – now we have the Internet.  Soon we will have remembered mental telepathy and will simply know not only what others are thinking and feeling, we will know access to what is called Cosmic Consciousness – the Mind of God.

This is what we are talking about at the Summit 2012 in St. George UT in September because I know we can see into our collective future given the right set of circumstances.  I intend to create those circumstances so when people leave they will have a very good idea of where they have the ability of going.  Right now it is incomprehensible and that is what I keep telling people.  You don't know.  Your mind does not know.  Your heart does know yet you don't use your heart so you can't know.

Realignment is already occurring

Remember in the realm of the invisible, there is no time.  We rely on time because of our rotation around the sun.  Yet time is relative as Einstein proved and it is even more relative when you are allowing the etheric (remember the Mayan prophecy) to emphasize itself in your life.  Take meditation for example.  During the timelessness of meditation, time passes in a different way than when you are, say, fixing a meal.

Since the myth of the great ending has been a continuing saga for humanity, people keep looking to the future to be "saved".  The western world has become a society that looks to someone or some other thing to save them (911, etc.).  So there is this looking outward to something else while, actually, it is all occurring right now.

What is to be expected?

To start with consider what is being experienced right now.  Each of you think about all of the experiences you have had in life and how they have led you to right now.  Now think about how you interpret those experiences.  Good or bad?  Fun or scary?  Since you have all of this experience under your belt, you can know that there are dozens upon dozens of new experiences available for you right now and you have to decide what they will be.

What people are basically doing right now is attempting to gravitate toward the frequency of love (whatever that means for them).  Look at the revolutions that are going on.  People are rebelling because the government has not been one of love, of caring for the people.  It has been one of control.  So the people join in like frequency and create a demand for respect (which is love), freedom (which is definitely love) and a government that is responsible within its own love to the people.

In the same way, everyone that people have worshipped or held in high esteem will become the true mirror for them.  People will begin to realize that they are the same as these people they have put on pedestals.  They will begin to act the way that they have worshipped for years.  How this will change the world!  It is autonomy.  It is freedom.  It is no longer living by rules that do not serve the Whole.

Those who are not aware may be afraid.  They will look everywhere for answers.  I ask, "Are you willing to be that answer?"  You will most likely be very surprised at some of the people in your environment who come forward and ask you to assist them in understanding.  Will you be ready to assist them?  This is not to say that

you have to make them know in the same way that you know.  You simply want to be able to give them of your love so they will realize there is no thing to fear.

Some people may be angry at that which they do not understand.  This is where you patience and appreciation of their standpoint come in.  This does not mean that you must condone what they are doing or saying.  It does mean that you can only assist them by not judging them.  Rather, be a mirror of peace and resiliency so that they, too, may realize that this is possible.

"Symptoms" of the change

Old structures are collapsing.  This includes the areas in which a person's physiology is not being supported by their lifestyle.  As the faster frequencies of the invisible (going back to the ether and the Mayans) become more visible because humanity is beginning to align with those frequencies, all of the areas in which the body is not performing optimally will be affected.

Since many people believe that many changes are occurring, they find they have resistance to certain changes in their life or in their environment.  This sets up an incoherent frequency in the body and it rebels in the only way it knows how ~ by exerting its influence over the consciousness.  It says in so many words, "If you continue in this way, I will cause you pain.  Then you will pay attention to me and do something to cause the end of the pain."  The body only knows how to communicate in one way – by making the user of the body feel something.

When you change the way you perceive life, then all of the changes will occur within your body.  Feel the love that is possible for yourself first and then let it flow out to the environment around you and then to the world at large.  It is magnificent experience you are having in form.

What your body is desiring of you is your recognition that it is the house of your Divinity.  Rather than following the mass consciousness and all of its fear and confusion, think and feel for your Self.  Demand that you respect yourself so well that your body will feel it deeply.  Then all of the confused frequencies will dissolve and resolution will be felt in the body.

Basically, look at the opposite of what you call your symptoms.  If you find it hard to breathe and have allergies, recognize that you are now ready to receive more prana from the ether (there we have that word again).  If you have difficulty eating, realize that you must utilize much purer food.  If you have trouble sleeping, use the time you are awake to rest inside a silent meditation which will also rest your body, etc.

Summit 2012 – Beyond Chaos!

Summit 2012 – Beyond Chaos! is intentioned to take the participants and me beyond the idea of chaos.  Since chaos means that more information is attempting to enter a system we are going to open the portal very wide for all of the information that we, as a collective in that room and then to the Whole, hold for the unfolding of the transfiguring of ourselves and the earth.

Since this conference is a mutual experience, it much more about the vibration that will be created within our mutual field and much less about the specifics of the presentation.  Yes, I will definitely have a format to present.  Yet, that format will have ebb and flow in it so that the audience will be activating within me the words I say, the questions they ask and the responses we receive together.  This is what is called a unified field – a field of union in which we all take part.

In other words, it is not so much what I will present as what we will experience together in those moments.  The unified field that we will manifest together will create the dynamic outcome.  One aspect that I can promise:  Everyone attending will go home knowing what they are.  I can definitely promise that.

We will also experience a very high frequency transmission because of the intention with which we have created this Summit.  The focus of releasing constraints and opening to the limitlessness of our true nature will shift all of the attendees into an enormously higher frequency than that with which they arrived.

Also, the Light Orbs or as I call them, the Whole Light Beings, have promised me that they are going to appear and after lunch will hold a Q&A session for the participants.  I have not spoken for the Light Orbs in public yet so this will be a new experience for all of us.  Before the Q&A, the WLB are going to talk a bit about the new generations being born and what they mean to the changes in earth.

Preparation for transformation

First, and this is the most important, slow down.  Find a pace that is a slow pace where you have time to be present with each moment.  Without this application within your life, all else will be much more difficult.  Then allot at least ½ hour a day (more if you will) to sitting with yourself in sacred silence.  I say "sacred" silence because you will be offering yourself the opportunity to go into what I call the Holy of Holies of your heart's temple.  You will be sitting with the divine within you – the Presence of Your Essence.

As you do these two things – slow down and sit in silence – your entire life is going to change.  Everything will take on a much different meaning.  You will not believe this until you do it.  And don’t "try" to do it.  That's like "trying to do surgery" or "trying to drive a car".  Either you are doing it or you are not.  So make this first and foremost and then all of the other experiences you have in your life with fall into place.

Then when you have gotten used to being quiet, you can begin listening to the voice of your soul, your heart.  It will speak so loudly and clearly to you.  That which is usually a whisper will become an overriding voice that will literally take over (in a very sweet way) the commanding voice of your mind.  This will hold you through all of the transformations.

Fear

There is no thing at all to fear if you are able to remain in a state of love without expectation or anticipation.  That is a big one.  What causes the fear is when the anticipated or expected results are not seen.  Then the supposed love disappears and people become very afraid.  Since no one knows where each of us is going to be experiencing in the next moment, what is there to fear?

Remember that if you allow yourself to remain in fear, then you are resonating with those who are living in confusion and, as a standing wave (transmitting and receiving simultaneously), you can only bring more confusion and fear into your life by doing so.

Within the transformation

People will begin to realize that no thing is wrong.  They will understand what it means to have multi-dimensional communication going on.  That is another reason why it is important to slow down and listen.  You can't hear on the telephone when you are talking.

People's biology will catch up with their transformation and the symptoms of change will be less.  They will realize they have control over what is happening in their lives and blame will appear useless.

Clair powers will become more every day.  People will begin to understand their natural clair powers and use them.  That is one reason why I emphasize that people learn to stand up for themselves and be authentic.  You cannot find your extra-sensory abilities when you are cowering beneath the fear of suppression.  You must be coherent.  You must be present within your own field for this to take place.

Come to the Summit ~ and fly!  See www.sacredspaceswa.com/summit2012.cfm

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Toni Elizabeth Sar’h Petrinovich is a Master Teacher, mystic and quantum physical researcher with a ministerial doctorate in metaphysics.  She is the author of The Call – Awakening the Angelic Human, and its accompanying CD, DNA Re-Awakening,  You – A Field Guide, Finding an End to Seeking, DeLight of the Orbs and Speaking of Light. Toni teaches metaphysics and the sacred connection within through her Meta yoU classes, guided meditation CDs, DVD production and video presentations.  www.youaresacred.com

Cancer ~ A Symptom of a Dis-Ease, Not THE Dis-Ease (by Carlos Garcia, M.D.)

The irrefutable truth is that in spite of hundreds of billions if not trillions of dollars spent both in public funding and private donations to the numerous research facilities, we are no closer today in the ‘fight against cancer ‘ than we were when America declared war on it. With a constant cure rate of 3% starting in the mid-1930’s, it is no wonder that spin doctors have demonized cancer to be a deadly illness. For anything less than an insurmountable illness would lead any reasonable individual to the logical conclusion of:

a)the researchers, and there is no shortage thereof, from Harvard to UCLA and from Seattle to Miami, NIH and CDC are either extremely stupid or

b)there is / are cures but the financial loss of said release would literally cripple the American economy and thus the 97% death rate is statistically acceptable for the overall economic benefit of corporate America –mengelerian economics if you ask me

Josef Mengele, known to many by the term the angel of death, was a medical doctor, a member of the Nazi SS and the head of ‘research” at Auschwitz death camp, where death was an art form of the most gruesome kind. Yes, given the right circumstances, even those who swore an oath to help his fellow man, can become willing participants in political economics, and the cost of human life. Approximately 400,000 deaths are attributed to Josef Mengele, the Cancer Statistics from NCI/ACS claims the following:

Note: You can compare 2001 estimated statistics below:

All types of cancers except basal and squamous cell skin cancers and in situ carcinomas except urinary bladder cancer: 1,284,900 new cases, and an estimated 555,500 deaths in the year 2002.

The breakdown of some of these cancers are as follows:

An estimated 205,000 new cases of Breast Cancer, with an estimated number of deaths at 40,000.

An estimated 189,000 new cases of Prostate Cancer, with 30,200 estimated deaths.

An estimated 183,200 new cases of Lung and bronchial Cancer, with 161,400 estimated deaths.

An estimated 279,100 new cases of Genital system cancers, with 57,100 estimated deaths.

An estimated 30,300 new cases and 29,700 deaths due to Pancreatic Cancer.

An estimated 107,300 new cases of Colon Cancer, with 48,100 estimated deaths.

An estimated 17,000 new cases of brain and nervous system cancers, with 13,100 estimated deaths.

An estimated 30,800 new cases of leukemias, with 21,700 estimated deaths.

An estimated 2,400 new cases of bone and joint cancer, with 1,300 estimated deaths.

An estimated 28,900 oral and pharynx cancers, with 7,400 estimated deaths.

An estimated 58,300 new cases of skin cancer, such as skin melanoma (excluding basal & squamous), with an estimated 9,600 deaths.

Multiple myeloma - an estimated 14,600 new cases and 10,800 deaths

Lymphomas - an estimated 60,900 new cases and 25,800 death

Other and unspecified primary sites - an estimated 30,200 new cases, with 43,700 deaths.

For childhood cancers, an estimated 9,100 new cases are expected to occur among children aged 0 -14, with 1,400 deaths. Cancer is the chief cause of death by disease in children between the ages of 1 and 14.

This same report gives the actual reported cancer deaths for 1999. It doesn't show the figures for 2000 or 2001.

A total of 549,838 cancer deaths were recorded in 1999 in the United States, up by 8,306 deaths compared with 1998. Adjusting for changes in rules for selecting underlying cause of death reduced the increase in the number of cancer deaths to 4,624. Cancer deaths accounted for 23 percent of all deaths, ranking second only to death from heart disease. When deaths were categorized by age and sex, cancer was by far the leading cause of death among women aged 40 to 79 and among men aged 60 to 79. In contrast, cancer ranked fifth as a cause of death among men aged 20 to 39.

Among men under age 40, leukemia was the most common fatal cancer, while lung and bronchus cancer ranked first for men aged 40 years and older. Colorectal cancer was the second most common site causing death among men 40 to 79 years old. Among women under age 20, leukemia was the leading cause of cancer death; breast cancer ranked first as the cause of cancer death for women between age 20 to 59 years, and lung cancer was the leading cause of cancer death for women aged 60 years and above.

SO MUCH FOR REAL MEDICINE, THE SCIENCE

Now lets talk about REAL MEDICINE THE ART:

Every kind of cancer has at least one person who has learned how to live again in spite of dogma.

Many of you still believe that food, drinking, smoking, pollution and stress are the leading causes of cancer. However I beg to differ. Within reason, none of these will cause the symptom of cancer, so my thinking evolves. So what causes the symptom I call cancer? Why is it that some who eat poorly and abuse their bodies so live to a ripe old age free from this symptom, while others who do eat well, exercise and live well within the confines of social norms get this symptom? Could our concept of cancer, namely that of mutated cells, be way too simplistic? Could cancer be part of an intricate self-survival process? Can cancer be a rude wakening, an alarm? Can cancer be our body’s last-ditch effort to get us to focus on what is truly important? What is truly important to YOU? Who are YOU? How do you define yourself? When is the last time that you thought about these all too important, yet overlooked questions?

Many afflicted by this symptom claim that their fate is doomed by genetics. If genetics seals anyone’s fate, then how has that particular gene pool survived the millennia that man has existed? What happened to the survival of the fittest and all that rot? Could genetics be the next ruse proposed by the system? What roles do fear, anger, hopelessness, self-disrespect, dogma, self-pity and victimization play in the outcome of anyone afflicted with this symptom called cancer?

The one irrefutable reality about the journey of cancer is that change WILL come. It matters not that you are uncomfortable with change; it will come. The question that begs to be asked is: Will you be alive to embrace, appreciate and participate in it, or will you be a passive observer from the great beyond? The choice IS yours to alone to make.

I have told all of you that our bodies are programmed to heal. If this is so, then cancer is a paradox, in that dogma states that it kills 97% of the time. How can this be? How can nature, program us to heal, while allowing a so-called lethal disease to flourish within us? Where does our spirit fit into all this? Dogmatic western medical teachings ignore the spirit. They must, there is no money is custom medical care for the masses. It is so much easier and profitable to state to the right you live to the left you die, so was Mengele’s approach, than it is to practice the medical arts. Its modern corollary many be: if you are strong enough or lucky enough to survive the ‘well intentioned’ poisoning, burning and cutting, then perhaps you earn the right to continue living. Unlike the 1940’s, our modern, yet well intentioned cruelty, is not reserved just for the Jews anymore, everyone is enticed to participate. Scare tactics are a standard, and well orchestrated in today’s medical economics –you MUST sign consent today or else die by tomorrow …

But if survival is only 3% with cutting, burning and poisoning, then why avoid the spiritual journey? In fact why not embrace it? If it is that cancer is a symptom, what is its source? What is the root cause of this symptom called cancer? Those who triumph over this symptom embrace the journey allowing you to mold change, and grow with it. After all, the choices made by you have gotten you where you are, namely at Utopia. Please remember cancer is a change in and of itself, and at that it is an equal opportunity offender: rich/poor, young/old, male/female, smoker/non-smoker, famous/not etc. are all afflicted.

How are you to embrace this welcomed or unwelcomed change? I recommend enthusiastically. The key feature to address is, what makes anyone think that they deserve to die? I cannot fathom any of you doing anything deserving of a death sentence with absolutely no exit strategy. Life/Nature is not this cruel, however man is; just ask anyone who survived any death camp, European or Asian.

Thus we have the great divide: The Being and The Human. Dogma teaches us to embrace humanity, but what is that? Define Humanity? Is just the quality of being humane? How about all the human inhabitants on earth? Define human? Is it just bipedal primates? Define being? A living thing that has (or can develop) the ability to act or function independently, a living creature.

The human is organic; the being is spiritual. Without a being, the human cannot exist. However the being can exist without the human. So can it be that our human existence through choices made during our life mutates us to such a state as to threaten our being’s survival, and that by doing so, cancer the symptom emerges as the imminent threat caused by our current human existence upon our being? Moreover, if cancer is an early or late warning symptom, of imminent danger to our being, then addressing and embracing change to enable our being to live again should resolve this symptom, and it does. This is my experience.

In fact, it is my clinical experience that as long as the root cause of a cancer is skirted, no one should be surprised at a recurrence of the same or different cancer. To my thinking, the symptom of cancer more often than not emerges from an internal self-struggle between and within the patient. Yes, within just you. Cancer does not involve God. You may want to drag him into this conflict, but remember that we all have free will and free choice. I cannot recall any choice in which God interfered and or made a guest appearance. However, I can recall my ‘gut’ speaking to me on numerous occasions and my ignoring such advise. This so called ‘gut feeling’ I believe is our being’s way of speaking with us. However our being is powerless to effectuate physical response unless our brain participates. I think that a disjoint between our being, our mind, and our brain, our organ exists within anyone with any chronic life threatening illness.

Yet in order for our brain to participate, we must first listen and then trust ourselves. Self-trust is pathognomonically missing in all cancer campers. Thus trust in oneself is paramount in redeeming oneself from choices past made. Again God has nothing to do with trusting yourself. Remember he gave us all free will and freedom of choice. You have the freedom to choose to trust yourself, but only if you dare to do so again.

How do you relearn to trust yourself? The first step in regaining trust with anyone or anything is through forgiveness. Forgiveness allows anyone to zero out your account. Remember, you alone can balance out any of your accounts. You are not empowered to balance anyone else’s account. No one else is empowered, unless by you, to hold your account out of balance.

Thus at Utopia, the first asset we relinquish and return to its rightful owner is your self-empowerment. Remember, I state that only YOU can cure YOU. I concede that I can only cure me. Allopathic medicine tries to disenfranchise you but making sure that you relinquish your empowerment, your inate free will of choice. This is the same freedom that got you into the mess that you are in, however, whereas it is human to err, it also is divine to forgive. Both of these properties are found within each and every one of us.

Thus I believe that our divine being, the spark of life, your sole is empowered to forgive, and it is willing to do so, but only if you trust yourself, and if you choose to do so. So it comes down to you versus you or you with you. The choice is yours to make.

The Art Of Bullet Proofing

I have discussed offering the ability to make yourselves ‘bullet proof’. The issue has been: How Doc?

1.Identify the issue

a.If there is more than one component, and or person, then dissect it into individual incidents / issues

2.Identify the people or circumstance associated with each issue / incident

a.Make a list of the people involved within each incident

3.Assess YOUR participation

4.Identify if YOU need to apologize to anyone

a.If so, do so

5.Apologize to YOURSELF for getting involved willingly or not with that issue

6.By apologizing to anyone that YOU think requires an apology from YOU, and by apologizing to yourself, you have effectively zeroed out the account (the incident) from all negative energy associated

7.If the people to whom you apologize reject your apology, that is THEIR problem NOT YOURS, do NOT let them suck you back into the black vortex

a.Once you make an honest apology, rejection is not an option

b.An offer to pay rejected is payment made

8.If YOU are owed an apology

a.If you get it great – graciously accept it

b.If you do NOT get it, then use your ability and your power of forgiving others for their ignorance and lack of social grace

i.If you do NOT forgive them, then the account, the incident, will never zero out and you will be stuck in a silly negative vortex

9.FORGIVE others for their participation in the incident

10.FORGIVE yourself for your participation in the incident

11.Choose to remember or forget the incident as you deem necessary

12.The account is now zeroed out

13.You can move forward knowing that the incident is behind you, and that all negative baggage associated with that incident is neutralized, i.e. zeroed out

Carlos Garcia, M.D., Director of Medicine, Utopia Wellness.

http://utopiaawaits.com

True Forgiveness vs. Pardoning (by Pamela Gregory).

Knowing the importance of forgiveness and ACHIEVING forgiveness, are two entirely different matters.

For the past two thousand years, we've been taught that forgiveness is about forgiving someone else, yourself or God for a perceived injustice done to you, or something you did to them. Unfortunately, we were taught the improper definition of forgiveness. Instead of forgiveness, what we've been taught is pardoning. Pardoning, or excusing someone for wrong or injust actions or behaviors is a nice thing to do, but it doesn't bring about the healing power of forgiveness as it was intended. The pain and trauma is still trapped inside you, waiting to be triggered at a later point in time.

True forgiveness is about cancelling the false reality within you that is causing you pain. No one outside of you is the cause of your pain and upset...trigger YES, cause NO. It ABSOLUTELY FEELS like their fault, I know. But that is our defense mechanism that will forever keep us blaming everybody else, so we never have to look at the part we created in it. We've ALL done it...until we know a better way...the only way...to heal our past and false realities.

I've been teaching the healing power of forgivenses for many, many years...but what I was teaching was the pardoning version. When I came across the work of Dr. Michael Ryce, I felt the truth of what he was teaching and thus adopted some of his key teachings into mine. It's powerful, powerful stuff! Let me warn you...once on this path, you'll never look back...AND you'll never again say, "You made me mad!"

Perhaps for the first time, there is a tool that can help you fully forgive once and for all. The process I've been searching for my entire life and have found to be the most effective beyond all others to assist in clearing and freeing your forgiveness issues I found in Dr. Ryce's teachings. .

One of the processes Dr. Michael Ryce uses is called The Reality Management Worksheets. Using this worksheet will allow you to discharge the hostility and fear you've been caring in your DNA your entire life, and even that of previous generations. Sounds CRAZY I know...but I've witnessed this for myself and it's a very real probability, as well as possibility...

Studies now show that the lack of forgiveness has measurable impact on our bodies. Continuing to carry yesterday's hurts with you will hurt you far more than anyone else. When you harbor resentment, hostility or fear, it festers in your body and can cause a multitude of problems, including chronic and even terminal conditions. Traumatic emotional issues literally eat away at the body. Anger releases high voltage toxic chemicals and hormones inside your body, damaging organs and your ability to think creatively. These contribute to a wide variety of diseases such as heart attack, cancer, arthritis, osteoporosis, ulcers, migraines, and high blood pressure, and many others. People with a variety of illnesses have had symptoms lessen, and even disappear when they achieved forgiveness.

If you wish to RESTORE your body's emotional and energetic balance back to the perfection you were created as (and still are) you'll invest the time and effort to heal your past, your false realities and return to a place of love. You can run from this task...but you cannot hide. Your pain will remain with you, and future generations until you heal it. The buck stops here...all healing is an inside job

Holding onto grievances is really a decision to continue to suffer. True forgiveness is the ONLY way to release us from a painful past.

"Our Essential Nature, as Human Beings, is Love. The work of healing is to remove anything that is unlike our True Nature so that we come back to the experience of Love 24/7/365." Dr. Michael Ryce.

Pamela has spent over 25 years in the health and wellness industry as a fitness trainer, holistic health practitioner, and nutritional consultant. Her greatest passion is to research empowering ways to help people heal themselves. The primary focus of her work today is in helping others to heal through teaching the principles of the Law of LOVE.

Pamela's approach to resolving forgiveness and other issues is very unique. She incorporates several energy medicine healing modalities, including kinesiology, to identify and RESTORE the body's emotional and energetic balance, back to the time before the event which triggered it. This creates a bio-chemical, physiological shift in the body, allowing your mind, body, and soul to return to it's natural state of health. To see the original post, click here: http://pamelagregory.com/Heart_Forgiveness.html

Giving Away Your Power - And Reclaiming it Through Forgiveness (by Dr. Eileen Borris)

Are you still holding on to hurtful feelings about something that has happened in the past? Pain can be difficult to let go of. And yet have you ever realized that by holding on to these painful feelings you are giving away your power and control to the person who has hurt you? The truth is, when we blame another person for how we feel, we give them power and control over our emotional well-being. Since we already feel hurt by what was done to us, giving people control will only add to and prolong our suffering.

Think about it for a moment. Why would we want to give any control over to someone else who in many cases doesn’t really care about us, some of whom may even be cruel to us? After a while, if we continually blame the same person over and over again it becomes a habit and we get caught in a groove which becomes deeper and deeper. This leads us down the road of feeling helpless and hopeless and definitely like a victim. We now have become disempowered at someone else’s hands.

There is one point I would like to stress. Holding people accountable for their action is not the same as blaming them for how you feel. People can be forgiven for what they have done and also need to be held accountable for their actions. What leads to unnecessary suffering is making people responsible for your continued suffering. Remember, forgiveness allows us to regain our power, breaking the unhealthy behavior created by our anger, guilt or fear. Forgiveness requires that we do our inner work and it is this inner work which will set us free.

Exercise: Think of a time when you gave away your power to someone who may not have cared for you. It could be a cruel and abusive parent or relative, or a friend that didn’t necessarily have your best interest at heart. Or it could be a business associate who did something implying that it was “just business” totally disregarding how hard you may have worked. Or it could be a lover or spouse who has betrayed you.

Ask yourself – why am I spending so much time blaming so and so. Who is it really hurting? Why am I choosing to stay stuck in the past instead of living in the present moment and creating a more productive and peaceful future? Haven’t I suffered enough? Now look into the present and future where this situation is no longer an issue. What does your life look like now? How does it feel to be free of this burden? What have you learned about yourself? Now take a deep relaxing breathe and think about all the things to be thankful for. Hold gratitude and joy in your heart and go on with the rest of your day.

Dr. Borris-Dunchunstang, is a licensed psychologist with a private practice in Paradise Valley, Arizona. She specializes in marriage counseling and couples counseling and works with indviduals dealing with relationship difficulties. Dr. Eileen R. Borris- Dunchunstang, is also the Director of Training for the Institute for Multi-Track Diplomacy in Washington DC. She designs and implements training programs in international conflict resolution incorporating processes of forgiveness, trauma healing and reconciliation within international peacebuilding. To see the original post, click here: http://findingforgiveness.blogspot.com/2010/03/giving-away-your-power-and-reclaiming.html