Roland Warren, father of two sons and board member of the National Fatherhood Initiative, explains the simple but critical support any dad can give his child.
"Does my son know that he matters to me?"
We invest -- money, time and energy -- in the things we care about. In other words, if you ever want to know what someone cares about, look at their bank statement or ask them how they spent their time.
"Does my son know that I love him?"
Nurturing means a lot of things. It certainly includes hugging and kissing our boys -- yes, even boys need hugs and kisses -- on a daily basis and telling them that we love them. But it also includes taking care of their daily needs, like cooking for them, giving them baths, playing with them, reading to them and helping their mothers.
"Does my son know that what he does is important to me?"
A son wants to know that the way he is living his life -- his interests, schoolwork, hobbies and passions -- is pleasing to his father. And, as a good dad, it is critical for a father to guide his son into right actions and help him live a life centered on serving others.
"Does my son know how proud I am of him?"
This boils down to a son’s innate need to be affirmed by his father. Your affirmation prepares your son to enter the world with the confidence and "emotional armor" that he needs in order not just to survive, but to thrive. A son needs to know that you are pleased with him, not for what he does or does not do, but because of who he is.